April 20, 2009

Why blog?

Last night my friend, Mo, and I were having coffee and we got on to the topic of this blog.  I am slowly making some changes and trying to be a more dedicated/interesting/informative blogger.  I'm still getting a decent amount of traffic from The Meming of Life and I've taken it as a challenge to try to make this place presentable.   But then Mo made a comment that secular parenting isn't even much of a topic since it's just how we parent.  I've had this thought pretty often myself.  My kids ask questions, I explain how the world works, they get it, and life goes on.  Doesn't lend itself to many insightful posts to be honest.   It also doesn't help (in an interesting blog entry sort of way) that we have virtually no religious strife in our lives from family, friends, or even strangers.  

So why am I blogging?  Mostly because I really enjoy it, but I haven't quite figured out what I want for my little corner of the web.  For now, I'm going to keep trying to post every couple of days and make little changes here and there.  If  you have any ideas or suggestions, let me know.  


  1. Well, it's about parenting, isn't it--and all that goes with that. The secularism, the critical thinking, the choices--in education and everything else. It's not just about the secularism. The title is Raising Three Thinkers, so I'm guessing all that that entails will continue to make for an interesting and insightful blog.

    I have moments like this where I'm like, but there are many other better book blogs and teacher/librarian blogs, and skeptical blogs. But then I realize there aren't many book AND education AND skeptical blogs so there you go. There aren't many secular AND parenting AND education blogs.

  2. I think you may be able to read my mind as I was just making the final decision to move all homeschooling stuff over here. My other blog has pretty much turned into political rants, videos and quotes. It's too hard to separate the education stuff out.

  3. I've found that writing about experiences or ideas I have helps me think through them a little more carefully. When I started blogging, it helped me a lot this way.

    It is also nice to have a sort of diary that let's me look back to see what I was doing and thinking a year or two ago.

    But I found that trying to "teach" people things or change their minds was a pretty lousy motivation to blog. I got sucked into thinking that way when my traffic picked up, and it just led to frustration. Some people do it well, but it's not for me.

    FWIW, I enjoy reading your blog!

  4. Thank you very much, Rolfe! I appreciate it. I think you hit the nail on the head. I don't want to be an authority for secular parenting. Dale is doing a fine job of that and he's much better at it than I am. At best, I'd just like to be an example of a parent who doesn't need religion to raise my children.

    I'd been going back and forth for a while on whether I want to just be a blog where I relate stories about secular parenting. Or did I want to also post about general parenting? Then did I want to put all the homeschooling stuff here too? And lastly, I find a lot of really interesting stuff about atheism, but it's not always kid-friendly. Did I want that stuff to be here too? So that's what I meant about trying to figure out what I want to put here. I think I'm going to leave the really opinionated and more adult stuff on another blog. I'll keep this one focused on the kids.

  5. Ha! Yeah, I get that question once in a while, and I always have to laugh a bit.

    I hear that secular/nonreligious parenting isn't much of a topic "since it's just how we parent," then I get three emails in a row from parents desperate for help navigating this or that issue -- talking to kids about death, reducing tension with religious family members, helping kids achieve religious literacy, dealing with religious issues in schools, etc.

    The "what's the big deal?" response reminds me of the guy who told me he just doesn't understand the need for parenting books: "What's the mystery? You have a kid, you raise it."

    My parenting is always secular, but that doesn't mean I can't benefit from hearing what others have found works well. Keeps us all from reinventing the wheel a million times over.

    So keep it up! You never know how much your everyday thoughts and experiments might mean to someone else.

  6. Thank you Dale. I'm definitely not giving it up. :)

  7. It's just nice to see the day-to-day lives of other humanists. :-) Thanks for blogging!