“The hardest job kids face today is learning good manners without seeing any.”
Every parent wants their children to have nice manners, from simple things like saying "Please" and Thank you", to knowing how to behave on formal occasions. I have observed that manners improve as you move higher up in society. Wealthy families pass down etiquette through the generations; it's just how they were raised. While those of us working our way up aren't always aware of the nuances of being a lady or a gentleman.
B brought up the subject a couple of weeks ago when he asked me to check the library for How to Be a Gentleman: A Timely Guide to Timeless Manners. He worried that I might ridicule him for wanting to improve his manners, but I was thrilled and inspired. We may never be wealthy or walk in those circles, but our manners should be impeccable anyway. There is no higher compliment than being thought of as well-mannered. We want to help our children too, as they continue to learn how to socialize with their peers and beyond. In a few years we will welcome our son's coming of age with 50 Things Every Young Gentleman Should Know, and hope he finds nothing surprising in it's pages.
In an effort to be a little more regular with my posting and in keeping with the theme of raising children who think, I am starting a Monday Manners lesson. I'll post a tip, a rule, or some advice every Monday to help myself and others learn the most up-to-date etiquette of polite society. I'd also be interested in any thoughts on the need, or reasoning behind any of the lessons.
This Monday's Manner:
I received a few compliments this week, and tried to make a conscious effort not to refute them. Instead I accepted them graciously, and let myself feel good about them. Next time you get a compliment, try it! It's a nice feeling.
A lady knows how to accept a compliment by saying, "Thank you."
Photo from: flickr