"In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends."
-Martin Luther King Jr.
Inspired by it being Martin Luther King Jr. Day, today's manner is about how to respond to racist or degrading jokes.
I have a confession. There was a time in my life when I thought a joke was a joke and if it was funny, I'd laugh. It didn't seem like I was doing anything wrong since I would hear jokes about every race, religion, gender, etc. But I was wrong.
So how do you handle these awkward situations? From a Miss Manners column in 2007:
"Stony face is, in fact, the basic correct response. There is a less harsh version however, for relatives and others with whom you may have reason to continue dealing. This is to look puzzled."
Personally, I like the idea of looking confused. "I don't get it? Was that supposed to be funny?" Seems like a non-confrontational way to get the point across.
For more ideas, check out this thread on Democratic Underground.com: What do you do when people tell racist jokes around you?