January 4, 2010

Monday Manners 1/4/10

“A man's manners are a mirror in which he shows his portrait.”
-Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

I haven't been thinking much about manners in the past couple of months, but yesterday it struck me that some of the effort I'd been putting in was paying off. I noticed the girls asking me for things politely. Even better was when I overheard them asking each other nicely while playing. I've also heard Robotson use nicer tones when asking the girls to not do the things that bother him. Everyone is better at remembering to cough and sneeze into their elbows.

On the other hand, we've made no improvements on table manners or keeping voices down. In fact, I've done a very poor job of keeping up with Thank You cards from the birthdays and holidays. At least I'll have something to keep blogging about for a while.

So my main point for today is to remember to model the behavior. You can tell your kids how to act, but seeing etiquette in practice everyday is a greater benefit to everyone.


  1. With the H1N1 scare this year and all the vaccine hoopla I went a bit germaphobe and googled how to teach kids about germs at the start of the school year. Found a new program called Germ Smarts for kids and got it for home and for our child’s preschool. It was a bit pricey but has probably saved us hundreds as the kids have not been bringing home every germ on the planet from preschool and we are no longer playing the “pass the germ” game around the house! Simple program but huge difference in staying healthy for everyone.

  2. I really enjoy your posts about manners. It's something we work on each and every day as well and I think it's SO important and so overlooked. I am worried a bit because we're about to go spend a month with my dad, who loves to spoil my son rotten as grandpas tend to do. But Z loses his head around grandpa and grandpa thinks it's funny. I have been practicing my talk in my head about asking him to PLEASE make manners paramount in their play & time together. *sigh* I hope it works.

  3. Sharon- I've seen that program too. I'm glad to hear a positive review. I'll have to check it out again.

    boatbaby- Have a great time with Grandpa! I know what you mean about the manners of others. I frequently have to bite my tongue around my family. I just hope that my behavior ultimately holds more weight than the rest. At least you have a plan to talk to your dad. I wouldn't even know where to start a conversation.