"Children need models rather than critics."
-Joseph Joubert Persees
Be quiet - Most of the time, if I just keep my mouth shut, they do work it out on their own.
Listen - Everyone wants to be heard. I rarely felt like my parent's really heard me. Maybe they did, but it's the perception that matters. If I didn't think they were listening, then I didn't feel understood.
Say yes - It's really not that hard to find a positive way to answer most requests. Can we paint? Yes, outside! Can we have a piece of chocolate? Yes, after dinner! Can we watch a movie? Yes, after the chores are done! Can we start a fire? Yes, let's light a candle!
Use I-Messages - I really feel anxious when you ride your scooter down the street. It's hard for me to do anything else until you come home safely.
Breathe - I think so much more clearly when I remember that I need oxygen to make my brain work.
Be Mindful - I spend a lot of time replaying things that have happened in the past, or worrying about the future. All that matters, all we really even have, is right now.