March 30, 2010

Best Parenting Tips That I Often Forget

"Children need models rather than critics."
-Joseph Joubert Persees

Be quiet - Most of the time, if I just keep my mouth shut, they do work it out on their own.

Listen - Everyone wants to be heard.  I rarely felt like my parent's really heard me.  Maybe they did, but it's the perception that matters.  If I didn't think they were listening, then I didn't feel understood.  

Say yes - It's really not that hard to find a positive way to answer most requests.  Can we paint?  Yes, outside!  Can we have a piece of chocolate?  Yes, after dinner!  Can we watch a movie?  Yes, after the chores are done!  Can we start a fire?  Yes, let's light a candle!  

Use I-Messages - I really feel anxious when you ride your scooter down the street.  It's hard for me to do anything else until you come home safely.  

Breathe - I think so much more clearly when I remember that I need oxygen to make my brain work.

Be Mindful - I spend a lot of time replaying things that have happened in the past, or worrying about the future.  All that matters, all we really even have, is right now.  


  1. very true - they are easy to forget but so powerful when remembered. thanks for the reminder. :)

  2. You are welcome! I've done a little better since I posted. :)