"While there is perhaps a province in which the photograph can tell us nothing more than what we see with our own eyes, there is another in which it proves to us how little our eyes permit us to see."
This last month of 2010 is going to fly by; I can tell already. I feel like I should try to catch things up a bit so that when I write about us in the future - it will make a little bit more sense. So here are a few random things that have, or are, changing in our family.
Lie To Me through Netflix. If I could go back to school, and I chose to study a science instead of art, I would totally want to learn all about micro expressions.
I am slightly obsessed with the photography thing right now, but I haven't given up on learning to be more mindful, emotionally intelligent, and have a growth mindset. I know I haven't talked about these things much lately, but they are always there in the back of my mind. I'm working on incorporating some ideas into our day that I got from Dr. Christine Carter (who has an amazing blog and podcast.) I've already started doing Loving-Kindness meditations with the kids. I plan to add daily talks about gratitude and good things that happen each day. I really, really want to do separate posts for those because I think they are super important. One other thing that Dr. Carter said on a recent podcast that really got me was about a study of parents with children who had behavior problems. The parents were given the tools and skills they needed to learn how to be mindful in their daily lives. That was it, just focus on themselves. At the end of the study, not only were the parents better off, but the kids were doing better too. So I am trying to put most of the focus on myself and hoping to see it trickle down. But it takes a lot of time and energy, and that's just one more reason why I don't get over here as often as I would like.*
*Probably no one *really* cares that I'm not blogging. But hey, this is just as much a record of our daily lives for myself as it is for anyone out there reading. So I'm explaining my absence to my future self right now.
O.k. an update on Robotson. He's going to be 10 in 11 days. I don't think the impact of that sentence has really hit me just yet. He's still into music and robots. Lately he's been drawing a lot. I have got to scan some of them, they are amazing. He's doing a whole series of robots from the show Robot Wars, only he's making them look Christmasy, and giving them new festive names. Plus he's been drawing Fraggles. He's on a real Muppet kick at the moment. He dropped out of the book club, so we aren't reading as much together. Still, I think he's reading a bit more on his own. Did I ever mention he figured out the Santa thing? We've had some interesting conversations about that revelation. He's sorta angry with the world and lack of magic right now, but he took it much better than I did as a child.
Funny Girl is amazing. I want to write much more about her. I can't do her justice in just one little paragraph, but her understanding of emotional intelligence and her willingness to try anything is a breath of fresh air. Don't get me wrong, she's got a mind of her own and she will assert herself. But Robotson's first response is always "no." Funny Girl will usually try to see the other perspective and find a way to make it work. I'm so proud of the person she is becoming.
Dimples is as sweet and dedicated to me as ever, but she's also growing more independent. She'll just as easily go off now with a couple of the other moms in our homeschooling group, and love on them, as she does with me. She's always been very verbal, but now she uses words more often when she's upset or uncomfortable. Instead of getting her "angry eyes" and making noises when a stranger talks to her, now she'll say "I'm kinda shy." I'm going to miss those eyes though. Gotta take more pictures of the kids because they are growing up too fast.