May 23, 2011

Mindful Monday: Making Choices

Sometimes I wish there were more hours in the day.  I tell myself I could get more done if there was more time.  It's probably not true though.  I never run out of things to do, so I am thinking a couple of extra hours would just fill up in the same way.  Plus I'd get tired more often and spend more time sleeping or wishing the kids would sleep so I could rest. See?  Nothing else would actually get done.

The last couple of weeks I seem to have made a leap in being mindful of our time.  I'm not entirely sure why it came together all of a sudden, but it did.  I'm doing better with figuring out what is going on at any given moment and making a choice.  Most importantly though, I'm doing better at not feeling guilt over said choice - which seems to be the key.  Somedays that means that I catch up on laundry, finish a book, read with the kids, go to the park, watch a movie, clean my bedroom, write a blog post, take some pictures, go to the grocery, or even just take a nap.  Those are just some recent choices.  A question I am getting fond of asking myself is, "Will the world end if I do this instead of that?"  The answer is always no.  My choices, the kids choices - none of them affect the rotation of the earth.  This gives me the freedom to choose mindfully, and with mindful choice comes peace.  That's not to say that I never feel guilty anymore, I do.  But I seem to be a little bit closer to forgiving my humanness.


  1. I wrestle with guilt over how I spend my time as well. The tension between work (as a graduate research assistant) and my family obligations is constant. True, the world my not end if stay home with my three boys, but my supervising professor may give me grief. I'm not sure this tension ever goes away for many parents.

    Anyway, I'm enjoying your blog.


  2. Thanks for commenting, Kevin! Of course there are required things in each day. My husband can't choose to not go to work and I can't choose not to get out of bed and feed the kids. But there are things I can choose to do like spend the day dusting every surface so my house is spotless or I could take the kids to a museum. What will matter most at the end of the day?