April 11, 2012

Daily Talks

You know how all the advice says that people can't learn anything in the heat of the moment?  It makes sense, really, but even though I know this I have a hard time not trying to correct something as it's happening.  As you might expect it doesn't work and usually makes things worse.  Geshtro is going through a particularly difficult period....again.  I keep having this fear that our relationship is going to be permanently damaged if we can't learn how to communicate with each other.  Right or wrong, I also feel like I am doing my best to keep calm and not react emotionally, while he flies off the handle at every little thing.  I know I need to set the best example that I can, but sometimes I want to shout, "This is all you!"  

However, I've noticed that he and I can have perfectly reasonable conversations if we are alone and not upset.  So in the interest of helping him find some balance I am making an effort to connect with him at least once a day just to talk.  I may do a little lecturing too, because some of his behavior needs to change.  Mostly though, I am hoping that he and I can keep a good line open so we don't lose our connection.  

2 comments:

  1. I have one of these. A child who is determined to make a fight out of everything.
    It's exhausting.
    It's insulting at times. (hard to explain unless you have one of these kids.)
    It's never ending.

    Listen, just (((HUG))).
    I might need one later...

    Peace,
    Karen

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  2. Thank you. It is hard to explain to most people. It's nice to be understood :)

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