However, I've noticed that he and I can have perfectly reasonable conversations if we are alone and not upset. So in the interest of helping him find some balance I am making an effort to connect with him at least once a day just to talk. I may do a little lecturing too, because some of his behavior needs to change. Mostly though, I am hoping that he and I can keep a good line open so we don't lose our connection.
April 11, 2012
You know how all the advice says that people can't learn anything in the heat of the moment? It makes sense, really, but even though I know this I have a hard time not trying to correct something as it's happening. As you might expect it doesn't work and usually makes things worse. Geshtro is going through a particularly difficult period....again. I keep having this fear that our relationship is going to be permanently damaged if we can't learn how to communicate with each other. Right or wrong, I also feel like I am doing my best to keep calm and not react emotionally, while he flies off the handle at every little thing. I know I need to set the best example that I can, but sometimes I want to shout, "This is all you!"